"How are you?" I despise the meaningless of the words. "How are you?" the social conformity of the phrase renders the words hollow and unavoidably worthless. The answer is almost always the same. It consists of some neutral response which, through social conformity once again, engenders the response to be as void of substance as the question. People don't truly ask "how are you?" because they are always afraid of the answer. We enjoy living within our own microcosmical lives ignoring those around us but begging for the ones which exist externally to us to be antithetical in action. There is a fear in reaching out, be it out of need or kindness; either action is one of anti-conformity and goes against our social up-bring.
When was the last time you felt someone asking the question "How are you?" meant it? Truly wanted to know the truth and where willing to delve deeper within you? The extra time to break from the moulds of social convention means the world to us all. It shows a love that is rare in this world. We all live busy lives and have busy bee troubles and as such have forgotten the selfish joys of selflessness. The feeling of goodness we feel when we help one another, or truly peer beyond the surface of our societal, superficial, "civilized" and constructed exterior. Break the mould and go out and ask "how are you?" with real love and real intention. Don't just say the words, mean them. Hold you hand out and shape the conversation to include those deeply bedded feelings we all hide from each other. I assure you it will be worth your time.
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